We in our day to day life try to control as many things as possible. Be it situations, people, relationships, work or even the results of our actions. We want to be the boss and want to control everything. When we fail to control things, emotions like anger, anxiety, feverishness and sadness etc. arise. Instead of you controlling the situation, now the situation controls you.
Isn’t that interesting !
A week ago, I was working with my colleagues and there were several major disputes that were happening among them. This created a lot of chaos. I was just a silent observer and took a deep breath as such things happen in every sphere of life. After couple of days from being a silent observer and not being influenced from the event at all, I started getting caught up in the event and I realized my feverishness, anxiety, anger levels were going up. I was completely not in charge of the situation. The event took over me and was bossing around me like a ruler does it to a slave.
This time I wanted to understand the origin of such emotions. The best way to do that was to reflect in the inner world. I sat down on my yoga mat, closed my eyes and started meditating. During the meditation, this is what I realized. Initially, when I was just a silent observer, I was simply being a spectator of the ongoing tornado of emotions. But when I got caught up in the event, the negative emotions increased inside me and I was no more a silent observer. This was the moment when I became free because I understood ‘the cause’. And now, I was again a spectator to the chaos.
Understanding who is in-charge and who is controlling the event is extremely important. Being centered is what helps one to pass through the ocean of negativity.
While driving in the rain, I saw little droplets of water striking the wind shield. Amidst this moment, a thought came to my mind. This rain drops were falling right on the wind shield at different intervals. I could completely relate this analogy to my life experiences. Just like this drops, problems appeared in my life at different intervals and each time I was hit with a hard blow and was shattered on the ground.
I observed that each time the water droplets on my wind shield blurred my vision, the wipers helped me to get a better picture of what is ahead of me. Just like in life when each time my vision got blurred due to the problems, I had something which helped me to move on and to see what is ahead. That was meditation, which has been a key to clear my vision and to wipe/go beyond the problems which impacted me deep in my life.
It is said that “Every one is fighting their own battles”. But does that bring peace and happiness ? Maybe yes, maybe no. But what keeps me going during my battle is Meditation. It helps me face my battle with a smile on my face, grit determination and peaceful mind.
I personally feel very fortunate to have learned this tool to combat the problems life has offered me to fight.
“Spirituality” was a very naive term for me. Few years ago, the impression of a spiritual person to me was someone who is poor, smokes weed, stands on one leg or sits under a tree and has fake knowledge and wisdom to fool people. I always felt compassionate and angry at the same time towards such people.
But with time in my journey I wondered a lot about this term ‘spirituality’ and started to think ‘If I was spiritual at all ?’. This question made me realize that I am on a roller coster ride but never knew when or whether I wanted to take a ride.
7 years back, a friend of mine introduced me to a Happiness program by Art of Living stating that ‘You will become a happy person’. I laughed deep inside and thought I am happy, I do not need to be more happy. But, being a good friend, I did the program and I got a glimpse of something that I never imagined. Since then, I have been meditating and its been 7 years NOW.
I always thought having no life or being lifeless is spirituality, but never knew how few sitting of meditations would turn my perception upside down.
As per my intellect,to meditate was to sit and relax and at times to sleep & to take a power nap. 😅 But, if I go back to the question, I think I know the answer.
I know the answer because the definition/perception of a spiritual person has changed. I guess its safe to say that I am no more a naive person in this spiritual journey. After 7 years of being in this journey, I can define a spiritual person to be someone who is on a path to be happy no matter what, a person who is not caught up into the material world, who knows there is something beyond than what the eyes see, who tries to be a better human being as a whole, who has desires but tend not to run behind them. (THIS MAY OR MAYNOT CHANGE WITH TIME 😶).
If this is spirituality then I am on the right path. I do not know where I will end up, but a glimpse of the unknown is enough for now to move forward. I think this journey will be full of twist and turns.
One of the benefit of living in North Carolina is that you are surrounded by forests.
So few minutes back when I was out taking a walk , amidst the beauty of the nature, I could clearly observe the broken branches of the tress and the melodious crunchy sound they made.
I was looking at the trees and the broken branches wondering how impermanent life is. Everything is changing. First a plant grows into tree and then fresh branches become dead. Aho(Wonder), its all changing !
While coming back I looked at a tree and had a chain of thoughts that there is a life in this tree though it can’t move. And then, in the next thought I questioned myself , “where is the source of its existence?”. And then I realized “The source is hidden deep inside in its roots”. Similarly, without the roots there is no existence of the tree.
Then where are our roots? From where am I getting the energy? What triggered this engine known as body to work?
I look at myself as a mere individual and I realized that my body is working. But how did this machine got its power ? Like an engine needs some electricity to start or work, where is the source of this machine ?
I wonder, how often we go inside to visit and find this source of energy – our existence – our roots.
Sanskrit scriptures beautifully describes Kalyug(the last of the four stages the world goes through as part of the cycle) as the “Time of downfall”. One of the prophecy mentioned in Markandeyas discourse says “People will have thoughts of murder with no justification and will see nothing wrong in that”. This is why today the world today has become a place where killing becomes a no big deal for someone just on the name of religion. This is a time when dawn of humanity can be seen where humanity is utmost required.
Outrage in Middle East, terror attacks by ISIS and shootings in countries which qualify as the ambassadors of peace are few of the biggest examples showing evidence the prophecy quoted above is getting proven today. While writing this blog, Boko Haram burned 86 villagers alive in Nigeria. Countries promoting gun cultures are becoming the victims of their own strategies. At the same time, we are trying to defeat weapons of destruction with weapons. Guess who won? The weapons. The history knows weapons never lead to peace.
Then the question arises, what leads to peace then?I was fortunate to listen to H.H. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar when he said “When few hundreds of people(terrorists) around the world can shake this world then why thousands/millions of good people around the world can’t shake this planet with peace”. In the name of religion hundreds are dying everyday, then why not in the name of humanity we all can come together to honor every religion and to be peace ambassador for this planet.
I have seen friends from different religion and cultures visiting each others worship places to learn and to respect their cultures and traditions. Can’t we all as a big family live like friends and come together to learn each other cultures to honor and respect them,than proving O, your culture isn’t worthy. Can’t we come together to celebrate diversity, and to say out loudly that we are one though we have different ways to live life.
Time has come to be together, to hold each other hand and say you belong to me, this world belongs to me, every culture belongs to me, every human belongs to me. Let this Naad(sound) of peace begin with me. Lets come together as a family to promote peace and to honor this world and its culture in World Cultural Festival in New Delhi, India on 11,12,13 Mar 2016 where 3.5 million people are coming together to celebrate humanity, to celebrate religion, to celebrate diversity.
Lets celebrate together as a One World Family..!!!