Resetting Yourself… But how?

What do you do when your smartphone is working very slow when your applications are either not getting opened or are slower than a sloth? What do you do? You reset your phone and the moment you reset your phone, your smartphone starts working back to normal.


Similarly, in our lives we have situations that break us down, slows us down or maybe we felt pathetic after saying a silly thing in a work meeting or you have done some past mistakes and you need to start things fresh. But what do we do? We keep blaming ourselves, we keep regretting our decisions, we shout at life and cry over that thing.

Just like you can reset your smartphone, you can reset your life. Yes, it is possible. How? When you are in control of yourself when you are in control of your mind. Again, not controlling life, but controlling your emotions, your state of mind, your feelings. You cant control life because it is unpredictable, however, what you do with that unpredictability is something you can control.

When you are in control of yourself and mind, you gain the ability and awareness to reset your actions, reset your habits, reset your life.

But how to reset yourself? How to control yourself? Through your Breath. Your breath contains immense power to control and manage your mind. So many researches have happened/are happening which all say how through breath this is possible. Breathing techniques help you to get rid of that stress that we carry in our mind which doesn’t let us reset ourselves.


It is very common to use our breath to reset ourselves. As an example, you might have heard someone getting angry and someone saying, “Take a few deep breaths in and out.” And as a result what happens? It helps you reset your life at that moment.


In my life, I have learned this technique where using my breath I can reset any component or moment in my life. For me learning and practicing Sudarshan Kriya has been a big big big game-changer. How easily I get an ability to change the state of my mind, how easily I get the ability to change my sadness into happiness, how easily I can change a negative feeling or thought, into a positive one.

We all need that button in life to reset our life. We all carry that button in our life, but we do not know how to use it. Sudarshan Kriya is something that enables you to do that.


I am teaching one of those programs called Happiness Program where you learn this powerful breathing technique Sudarshan Kriya in November 2020. You can come and join to learn this technique to enable yourself to reset your life whenever you want to.

Happiness Program November 2020: https://www.artofliving.org/ca-en/program/6224

Series: Wake Up – Fear of Failing

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Our life is a race. Sometimes we have the freedom of choosing which race to be a part of and sometimes a race is forced upon us. Either way, we want to succeed. We want to be in the first position, not second, not third, and definitely not less than a third. Be it grades in the school, an interview, or even an actual running race, we want to succeed. We do not want to fail.

It is true, winning is important but we have forgotten how we won. We won with failures, not without it. Lets see how we started winning.

  • You won when you scored a goal in a football match. But before you scored, you failed so many times to even hit the ball with your foot.
  • You won when you drew your first painting. But before you drew your first painting, you failed so many times to even draw a single line.
  • You won when you came first in a 100 meters race. But you failed miserably to be able to walk for several years.

This thought of always winning and never failing has created fear in us that, we will be miserable if we fail.

Due to the fear of failing, many around the world do not do things they love to do. People do not sing because of the fear people might make fun of their voice, have stage fear because they might not make sense to the audience, do play any sport because of the fear that what if they could not hit a goal.

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With the fear of failing you are giving up your freedom. Is giving up your freedom worth it? Our fear of failing is just taking away the potential from us.

Sri Sri says

“When you look back at your failures, you will see that you have learnt something from them, and they have been stepping stones for you to move ahead.”

So what if you were not able to get good grades, so what if you were not able to clear an interview, so what if you failed losing weight. SO WHAT! It is okay. Do not mind the failure, it is an important ingredient to the most delicious recipe.

Make mistakes, fail but rise stronger. #ItIsOkayIfYouFail

Do share your thoughts in the comments below.

Mat Kar Maya Ka Ahankar – Guitar Cover

It is said Lucky are the ones who attain human birth. Luckier are those who get a glimpse of truth. Luckiest are the ones who have a Guru in their life.

I am fortunate to have all three. 10 years back wisdom was something that sounds nice but had no meaning to the reality. Or maybe my mind was crowded with so many thoughts that I could not think outside of my small little desires. But then I met my Guru. Now, all make sense.

A few days back on my birthday, I was contemplating about this life. In a few minutes, I started humming a song. A song with the meaning such profound. I heard this bhajan/song “Mat kar Maya ka Ahankar” from Vikram Hazra many many years ago but never had the right mindset to record it. But on my birthday, I took my guitar and started singing which turned out recording a video.

From the school days, I knew Sant Kabir was famous for his Dohas, but never knew those couplets had such profound knowledge of this life hidden in his works. #EverGrateful

A Yogi during Pandemic

When the world shakes, it creates distress and fear in the minds of the people. This is what we have seen during the COVID-19 pandemic. The world is shaking during this pandemic and it has created distress in some percentage of the population. As a result, we have seen the mindless hoarding of goods and medical supplies from the stores.

But a Yogi (Someone calm, serene and centered.) sees this situation as fleeting not something permanent. He knows that this shall pass too. (Yogi is not someone who has long hair or beard, a yogi is someone who is happy and content.)

I heard this from a friend of mine many years back and it makes sense during this pandemic.

This too shall pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.

One of the learnings I had from Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar is that nothing in this world is permanent. Everything is changing. For me, these are not mere words but a shelter of hope during these tough times.

Just knowing, this too shall pass, brings such relaxation, and hope deep inside you. Worries disappear.

This is not the first time Earth is going through a pandemic. There have been many in the past. But after each pandemic life came back to normalcy. Same as how the dark clouds disappears from a stormy day.

Just like we studied mathematics, science, etc. in school and we had to give a test. This is the time where life threw a surprise test and we have no option than sitting in the exam.

Do you know what are we tested on in this surprise test?

Our Faith

Our Compassion

Our Love

A yogi has all these during the toughest of the tough times. A Yogi knows that dark clouds are momentary, they may have the power to block the sun, but can not stay forever.

Moving To Canada During COVID – 19

I am sharing my personal experience and my opinion about moving to Canada during COVID.

I have recently moved to Canada on my PR from USA. I had to make this decision rather quickly and abruptly due to COVID-19 spreading faster in the USA. When Prime Minister Justin Trudeau & Trump announced that they would be closing borders, I had 2 options:

  1. To stay in USA on my H1B visa (i.e. with poor medical benefits and no Government benefits since I am not a citizen)
  2. To move to Canada on my PR (I did my soft landing last year in 2019)

After going back and forth with these options I finally decided to move to Canada and in my opinion I made the best decision.

WHY?

  1. Canadian Government is not only helping the Citizens or Permanent Residents, but they are also providing aid to international students.
  2. Since I had an OHIP card it was easy for me to avail the medical benefits if needed.
  3. My partner has a full time job so it will not load us financially.

But some of the drawbacks of moving to Canada right now is:

  1. There are NO job-fairs or it is very difficult to get in touch with the recruiters, so looking for a job in my field has become a a hassle.
  2. Most of the network providers are closed like freedom, fido, etc. It is difficult to even get a sim card during this pandemic.
  3. Difficult to meet people and make new connections as that can help to find a job.
  4. Most of the stores are closed except all essential services.
  5. Finding a rental place/apartment is extremely difficult and expensive. AirBnb is not entertaining anyone as well.

In short, I would not advise any one to come here right now on PR if they don’t have a job as they will just exhaust their savings. If CIC is giving you a chance to hold onto the landing process then see this as an opportunity and not a blocker. Until you want to come here with your savings. So the people who got COPR do not worry, Canadian government will not take your PR away because you can’t land, they will be understanding towards the situation.

If you have any questions feel free to comment below and I will answer them.

How to be Happy ? Part-1

In my previous post, Are You Happy?, I shared why you should be Happy this moment. If you have not read it, do give it a read.

There are days when most of the time goes in complaining, stuck in arguments and getting stuck with our heavy emotional garbage. But amidst all these negative experiences, there are moments when we are happy. Its just that we ignore our happiness.

Why ?

One of the habits of our minds is that it tends to focus on the negatives a lot more than on the positives. In certain cases, it just ignores the positives and focuses on the negatives. This is because when we grew up nobody taught us how to be positive when the negatives take over. Due to which we developed this habit of ignoring positives. So, question is how do we come out of this habit?

H.H. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar says,

“Santosha. Develop the habit of being happy. You have to do it. Nothing else can give you that. Nobody else can do it. If anybody else or anything else does it, it will only be very temporary. You take a step!”

This is not just a quote, its a technique to be happy. Just like you work out in the gym, you know its hard but you push yourself and you complete the set which was difficult to start with. But with practice you become fit, develop strength, six pack abs, etc.

The same way, if we take the step to be happy, it might be tough in the beginning but with time, you ca become so rock solid from inside that nothing can shake your happiness. As a result, you develop six pack abs for your mental well being.

So, tell yourself, come what may, I will be Happy. Let this be your mantra.

Why Journal Writing is a Good Idea

Sometime in 2010 when I was going through a teenager crisis, I picked up a book (Who will cry when you Die by Robin Sharma) in a Crossword book store, near my house. I found the title very catchy and I wanted to peek in and see what the book was about.


The author spoke very briefly about maintaining a diary or a journal to track your goals or habits. And that is where I developed this habit. It was this book where I read the ideal of journal writing for the very first time. Though I started writing in 2012, I wasn’t completely into it.

After a few years, one of my professors recommended us to read this book ‘The Power of Habit’. There was this line by Charles Duhigg in that book which is still ingrained in my mind:

“Small changes or Habits that people introduce into their routines can unintentionally carry over into other aspects of their lives. You acquire one of these habits, and everything in your life can change.”

That is when I realized that it is all about creating a chain reaction of every good habit.

I moved to the USA in 2014 and had a tough License Exam to crack in 2015. It required discipline and self-awareness. That is when I started writing my daily journal and started acting on my goals be it small or big.

Writing journals has helped me tremendously. Not only in achieving goals but also to track the progress of my daily habits. i.e.

  1. It helps me focus on my Self Development.
  2. It helps me to evaluate my Performance.
  3. I am able to create new milestones each time I accomplish something big or small.
  4. I can easily change my habits as I get aware of when I am going off track.

Journal writing is a very powerful tool as it is impossible not to grow from it. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

 

Are you Happy ?

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In our day to day life, we run like head-less chickens to earn, to stay comfortable, for fame, for reputation and for so many other reasons…

Amidst all this, we are worried, stressed, often get depressed and carry emotional burden  for our whole lives.

Did you ever asked yourself this question…. Why are we running for all those things?

Any Guesses ?

The answer is, we are doing whatever we are doing to BE HAPPY.

Think about it, after you first got the ability to think, you thought, “I will be happy if I get good grades”, after sometime, “I will be happy if I get that boy/girl as my partner”, after sometime, “I will be happy if I get a job and start saving money”, and then, “I will be happy when I buy a house”, and then, “I will be happy when I am married and have kids”, and then may be promotion, further have my kids in a good school. And so on you just keep postponing your happiness always.

But have you asked yourself, after having all that you wanted, ARE YOU HAPPY ?

We spend years and years achieving things we want, we do get them, but amidst that we forget the purpose why we started what we started and  are we HAPPY.

Not after a month, or an year or sometime in future, NOW, ask yourself, ARE YOU HAPPY ? If not, then BE HAPPY.

I heard H.H. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar once say,

“You postpone your happiness until some perfect future date, but it never arrives.”

Before deciding to write this blog, I asked myself “Am I Happy ?”. I ask this question many times to myself, because if I am not happy now, I would never be happy.

So close your eyes, take a deep breath in and say yourself, I AM HAPPY !

Conversation with a Buddhist Monk

After reading ‘My Journey Home’ by Swami Radhanath, an American Swami, I was very keen to know more about the hidden yet profound wisdom witnessed by many great people on their spiritual journey. My perception towards such people has immensely changed from being sympathetic to the one who carries pearls of wisdom.

I was traveling from Texas to Philadelphia where I was stopped at the security checkin. (Their scanners always get confused when they see a harmonica case). After 15 minutes when I started walking towards my gate, I saw a guy wearing orange robes with a strong presence. I was very curious to speak to him and wished he was in my flight. Though not completely, but my wish was half fulfilled. His gate number was 50 and mine was 49 since he was traveling to Washington DC. After introducing myself to him (Master Lim), I asked if we can sit together and contemplate. To that he nodded with approval.

When we sat he saw my Yoga mat(I usually carry it with me when I am traveling) and asked me “Do you meditate ?”. To which I nodded with a broad smile. He told me he had been meditating since 40 years and is a follower of Buddha. He spoke about his spiritual journey with great enthusiasm. Though he was old in age but his undying smile and simplicity touched my heart.

The discussion moved on to Buddha to which I mentioned about one of his teachings – Nothingness. With great excitement and love in his eyes he started describing about Nothingness. He said “Nothingness means everything in this world is impermanent. The cloth, the carpet, this body, even this cell phone, everything in this world is impermanent”. I felt aligned with his words. He continued “Though everything is impermanent but it does not mean that you should not have a desire to have it. If you desire something, work towards it but do not run behind it. When you madly run behind something, you go far away from nothingness”.

After that I introspected my life in a series of events. I could actually relate each event to what he mentioned. I could see how I have been running behind things with hunger and madness.

He asked me about my Master and I showed him Sri Sri Ravi Shankar’s picture on my phone. Out of curiosity he almost snatched my phone and told me “You are in safe hands. Congratulations, you have found your Master”. I nodded in agreement with gratefulness. We heard an announcement calling for Gate 49 which meant I had to leave. But before that I asked him for a picture and he happily agreed.

Before boarding the flight I just looked at him and he was sitting there being Nothing.